Christina Wilcox’s Take Care of Your Friends is a compassionate guide that merges Enneagram wisdom with the practical goal of becoming a better friend. The book is structured in two distinct parts: the first introduces core Enneagram concepts and theories, while the second offers an deeper look at each of the nine types. For intermediate to advanced students of the Enneagram, Wilcox’s use of familiar frameworks—such as the Harmonic and Harmony triads, the Intelligence Centers, and health levels—will feel accessible and well-grounded.

One of Wilcox’s refreshing choices is her compassionate reframing of type names. Rather than using labels like “Type 1, the Perfectionist,” she opts simply for “Type 1, The Improver” allowing space for a more open and accepting interpretation of each personality. Her approach to health levels simplifies the commonly known ten-tier system into three digestible states: health, coasting, and stress—making the material practical without losing depth.

A standout feature of the book is how it weaves the “six pillars of friendship” into the lens of each type, grounding the Enneagram in everyday relational dynamics. Wilcox aligns with teachings from Suzanne Stabile, especially around the stances, offering readers another helpful framework early in the book. Throughout, she provides meaningful, actionable insights into how to respect and support each type with warmth and clarity.

Overall, Take Care of Your Friends is a uplifting resource that not only deepens Enneagram knowledge but also empowers readers to show up with more empathy in their relationships.